On a daily basis, multiple times a day, I hear Liam say, “Mommy (or Daddy) can I tell you something?” Our answer is always yes. Sometimes he tells us he is hungry, other times it’s to ask if he can watch a show, and other times it’s to tell us a story. Regardless we always listen. Here’s the thing, if our kids know we are listening now they can trust us eventually when they get older and the issues turn from watching Thomas to being tempted to try to smoke. The things they tell us now may seem small but it isn’t to them and they need to know we care. I always encourage Liam to talk to me not just because I like to know what he is thinking but because if he gets comfortable doing it now there is a greater chance he will come to me later on when the big issues are happening.
All too often I see parents on their cell phones while with they’re completely ignoring them. My husband is always saying, “You are missing it.” You are missing those moments that you can never get back. Ten years from now it will not matter what level of Candy Crush you got to or who said what on Facebook but it will matter what your kids are thinking and saying. In today’s technology filled society we all do it. We all check our emails, update our Facebook statuses, etc. but if you can put down your phone for a minute and see what your kids are up to, you might just learn something.
It’s like creating the foundation and the framework of a house. If you create a solid foundation and a strong framework, the house will be able to weather the storm. So often in our busy days listening gets brushed aside, but trust me give them the time. Not only will you find out entertaining and fascinating things about your kids now, but you are doing the homework for the final exam later on.