There are times in our lives when we empathize with something that is happening in someone else’s life. It is still very hard to put ourselves in their shoes and if we try we quite never fully understand what they are going through. I think it is so easy for a lot of us (myself included) to take some things for granted. Three months ago I started on a journey that has brought me to today. I am pregnant. I am pregnant, but not with a child of mine. I have two dear and very special people in my life in which carrying a child full term posed to be not possible. As a bystander to everything that they have gone through my heart ached for them. As parents they would undeniable be able to give any child a home full of love, security, and every need met. It is situations like this where the phrases “Life is not fair,” does not even come close to how frustrating and upsetting their journey has been.
I have already been asked many times, “How did you come to decide to do this?” I have to be honest it was never even a debate in my head. When I approached the subject to my husband, again, it was not even a question. He fully supported me (I am a very lucky girl). And although it is subject matter that needs to be handled delicately once we started down this road, I have not once looked back.
If you asked me three months ago what the difference between a surrogate and a gestational carrier were I would probably had given you the same definition. However, they are very different. I am a gestational carrier which means I have no genetic tie to the child that I am carrying. The child that I am carrying came from the egg and the sperm of the intended parents. In surrogacy the sperm from the male and the surrogate herself provides the eggs and is therefore genetically related to the child.
After three months of blood work, tests, doctor clearances, medications, and shots; two weeks ago we were finally able to do the transfer of the embryos. The last two weeks have been hard to bear. The not knowing, the waiting, was excorticating. But on Saturday with simple call the anticipation, anxiety, and nervousness melted away. The nurse said, “Congratulations you are pregnant.” That simple statement has set in motion a change in many people’s lives. And so now I begin my journey pregnant as a gestational carrier. The excitement in me is immeasurable. The two people I am doing this for I love dearly. I am thrilled to have the honor to do this for them. As I begin on this journey as a gestational carrier, I invite you along for the ride.